Bring back the old fashioned love letter.

Getting personal on Facebook was something which was written about in a feature article today. The author was talking about the new interpretations of monogamy. Technology has changed the way that we interact with others. It has allowed us to get back in touch with old flames. Develop artificial (yet real??) relationships online with people we have never met.

How does this affect a real life relationship?

I read somewhere last year that Facebook helped to break up relationships that were already going to break up. It wasn't Facebook per se, more the online interactions that were occurring were questionably 'morally' grey. A flirt here, an online wink there.

How far is too far?

Can old flames still talk with a wink and a tease, and reminisce about good old times?

If you are in a relationship, how much are you allowed to have even ostensibly platonic interactions with a person, if you are downplaying the fact to your partner, that you are talking to this person at all?

I have in the past talked with important people in my life about emotional cheating. That is in my opinion, much more complicated than physical cheating. There is a set rule when it comes to physicality. The boundaries of emotions however, blur between loyalty, fun, trust, anxiety for the other person, your current circumstances and who you are talking to. And why.

How much is too much, and why do people seek this high?

The sexologist quoted in the article said that it is up to each party to negotiate the boundaries of acceptability between themselves.

I've already cut myself off from Facebook where it hurts the most. I'm also tempted to restitch the connection, because really, I'm just curious to know what is happening!

Forget the naughty email.

Forget the thrills of talking with stranger Icebreaker09 in the open chatroom (does anybody still use this??)

I think it works in this case to do to others what you want done to yourself. That is easier said than done.

Bring back the yesteryears, and the weeks of no communication. As if the person was in Africa in the middle of nowhere. Where accessing the internet is difficult and expensive. No thanks!

But a good old fashioned love letter, snail mail style? Yes please.