Bring back the old fashioned love letter.

Getting personal on Facebook was something which was written about in a feature article today. The author was talking about the new interpretations of monogamy. Technology has changed the way that we interact with others. It has allowed us to get back in touch with old flames. Develop artificial (yet real??) relationships online with people we have never met.

How does this affect a real life relationship?

I read somewhere last year that Facebook helped to break up relationships that were already going to break up. It wasn't Facebook per se, more the online interactions that were occurring were questionably 'morally' grey. A flirt here, an online wink there.

How far is too far?

Can old flames still talk with a wink and a tease, and reminisce about good old times?

If you are in a relationship, how much are you allowed to have even ostensibly platonic interactions with a person, if you are downplaying the fact to your partner, that you are talking to this person at all?

I have in the past talked with important people in my life about emotional cheating. That is in my opinion, much more complicated than physical cheating. There is a set rule when it comes to physicality. The boundaries of emotions however, blur between loyalty, fun, trust, anxiety for the other person, your current circumstances and who you are talking to. And why.

How much is too much, and why do people seek this high?

The sexologist quoted in the article said that it is up to each party to negotiate the boundaries of acceptability between themselves.

I've already cut myself off from Facebook where it hurts the most. I'm also tempted to restitch the connection, because really, I'm just curious to know what is happening!

Forget the naughty email.

Forget the thrills of talking with stranger Icebreaker09 in the open chatroom (does anybody still use this??)

I think it works in this case to do to others what you want done to yourself. That is easier said than done.

Bring back the yesteryears, and the weeks of no communication. As if the person was in Africa in the middle of nowhere. Where accessing the internet is difficult and expensive. No thanks!

But a good old fashioned love letter, snail mail style? Yes please.

Blogging vs FB posts

Today has been a sugar overload. Melting moments, I love them.

Recently I've been surfing the internet more than usual, and getting in touch with my old blogs and friends' blogs. I came across my cousin Sulyn's blog after having not read it for years. It is so nice that she does update sometimes. I feel like I'm closer with her, even though I never comment.

These days, I usually condemn my ridiculous thoughts to my diary using the traditional pen and paper. My urge to express my opinions or feelings online however still sporadically appears. These days it manifests in the form of a Facebook post. I haven't really gotten into the tweeting. These days, I feel old. These days. These days. Back in the days...

The thing about the FB post however, is that you even though you might have something clever to say, you still have the stress/option to consider who you want to share your witty piece of information with. I have so many contacts on my FB who are from different walks of life. Family, friends, work, school, uni. I'm not sure I want everybody to know what I think every time!

So FB has developed, chopped and changed its privacy regulations over the years. It's become much easier to regulate privacy. I wouldn't bet my life on it that these regulations aren't always working. So better to play it safe, and not slag my workmate online. Not that I would ever do that anyway.

The blog is different because you don't really need to care about your thoughts and opinions popping up on someone else's feed, every time you write something. Those who want to read your blog will read your blog, and it is open access if you choose it to be, or closed if you don't. Kinda like FB, but I think the difference is that not everyone knows you have a blog. You're not so easy to find. It's personal, but not as in your face(book)? I don't know why I'm debating between the pros and cons of a blog versus Facebook.

The thing to remember at the end of the day is that no matter what, you will be judged by who you are online.